For months now I've been going over and over in my head what I wanted to say in this post. It's such a sensitive topic, not only for me, but for many other women and young girls. Let me just start by saying, this is hard for me. I'm going to be super vulnerable, for the whole world to see. So bear with me! Here we go...
I have been a little down lately, and feeling extremely insecure, until the other day, I received a comment on my blog in the "About" section from a girl who loved the message I had written about wanting to help women and girls love themselves, and help them find confidence. She had stated that she has been suffering with body image issues and has recently overcome them. Her comment seriously made my whole week, and I remembered why I started my blog in the first place. Body image issues can be so overlooked, but can do so much damage to a person, physically and emotionally. So I thought this would be the perfect time to share my story.
I've been skinny pretty much my whole life, until about a few years ago. Then ever since I feel like I've been battling my weight, and that's when the body image issues kicked in. I find myself constantly looking in the mirror and hating everything: my thighs are too thick, my butt is too big, my arms are too flabby. Then I go for a run, or go to the gym and feel good for a little while, but then the feelings will rush back in. It's so hard to explain the feeling. It's like a vicious cycle. The feeling is so intense that it stresses me out to the point of anxiety, and sometimes depression. As women, it's like we have this idea in our head of what we're supposed to look like, and we kill ourselves trying to achieve that. And when we don't meet that achievement, we end up feeling defeated.

My insecurity issues started when I was in about 6th grade. My body started developing before any of the other girls, I pretty much towered over every other kid (haven't grown since), and I had different colored skin. (I've since come to love the color of my skin, of course, but when you're young and different than everyone else, it sucks.) Girls (and boys!) started calling me names like 'slut' and 'skank' and the name-calling led me to feel excluded, alienated, and down-right just not good enough. I never fit in with the 'cool' kids or the pretty girls and I just remember constantly feeling alone and insecure. As much as I always try to push these feelings away, they always manage to sneak their way back in. The insecurity, the body image issues, the loneliness.

As a blogger, you definitely put yourself out there to the world, and it is extremely frightening. This blog has kind of become my baby. I've put my heart and soul into it, seriously. It has become something that makes me feel happy and confident, and I've loved every second of it. It has made me grow as a person, and help me fall back in love with myself, and regain my confidence. From the very beginning, I've wanted to use my blog as a platform to help empower women, and to help them love themselves, and feel secure and confident. So I hope by sharing my story and my battle, I can do so. Life can make it really hard to lose yourself and forget what matters most, but I think it's so important for us to realize this and bring ourselves back down to earth. Loving yourself is one of the most important things in the world you can do, yet it's something that's so easily looked over. So, now you know my story. Here's to choosing to empower women instead of bringing them down. Have an amazing day! Thank you so much for taking the time to visit my little corner of the internet.


  1. I'm literally in tears after reading your post, I started my blog after a very hard time, it became like my boyfriend, and it all started because I wanted to feel pretty, I lost over 55 pounds and I needed to find my style and self confidence, it took a while, I even re gained half of that weight but it was the blog that motivated me to get in shape back again. Is so comforting to learn that I'm not alone in this everyday battle, and that there are some other girls out there who want to motivate others!

    Cee. ♥
    Code Overdressed

  2. Cee, that is so amazing! YOU are amazing! You're definitely not alone. Us ladies need to all stick together! Thank you for your wonderful comment! xo

  3. Oh, Jody! I relate to pretty much everything you said. I feel like you were talking about me! I always get down on myself (mostly thinking my thighs are too big) and I actually take meds for anxiety and depression which the self image thing is part of. Sometimes it's so hard to love ourselves but easy to love others. I think you look amazing! You are beautiful. And I'm glad you were brave enough to post this, it was so nice to read and definitely a reminder to work on loving my self and my body how I am.


  4. I love this quote and your writing here. Blogging, for me, is a way to push all those fears aside and present myself to the world, just as I am. It's empowering for me. I really do hope to inspire women, as well, to embrace themselves.

    xo Ashley

  5. This was great! Thank you so much for sharing. It serves as a very important thing we should all remember!! I have been down lately to and can totally relate with these last few years. You always look absolutely gorgeous! Thanks again!!!

  6. Had goosebumps while reading this...you really really spoke to me. Thank you. I am so happy I found your blog! I know EXACTLY what you mean when you're talking about that torturous cycle. I feel like I have wasted years of my life stuck in it and it is still a struggle not to fall back in. Loving yourself really is the best thing you can do for yourself, I only wish I had figured that out sooner. Thank you thank you for this post.

  7. I SO know how you feel! I'm 32, a mom of two, have a career, a wonderful husband who thinks I'm the most beautiful woman in the world, and you'd think that by now I would take ownership of my flaws and love myself regardless. But I have struggled with my body for so long, for the same reasons as you have, I developed earlier than most my friends and classmates and even though I was not putting myself out there or using my body for attention, I became an object for strangers to look at because in my culture that's what men do, and they feel it is their right to objectify you with a lewd comment as you walk by. It sucked. I like blogging because I can share the best of who I am and the things that make me happy, and take ownership of who I am and what I look like, and show other moms that they can be ANYTHING they want. :)

    You're doing great and you're beautiful!

    Ana Paula
    {Visit me at Mommyhood, PhD}

  8. This is such a wonderful post! I think that women of every age feel this way. As a 16 year old girl in high school, sometimes this issue sets in on me but I love throwing myself into my work and blog. It makes me feel confident and I'm so glad that it makes you feel that way too! You are beautiful and seriously tiny! As well as an extraordinary blogger!

    xoxo, Lexie

  9. Love this Jody! First of all you are beyond beautiful, seriously! You are also so so so so sweet!!! I am so happy that i was able to meet you! I love this post, it is so hard to be a girl sometimes!!! You are amazing and keep up the good work i seriously love your blog!!!xoxoxox

  10. I love how down to earth and real you are. I can totally relate to your body issues- I suffered from a severe eating disorder starting in the 7th grade. I got down to 65 pounds at age 12 and had to see a special psychologist to get back on track. In high school I gained my confidence back and started seeing myself as beautiful and treating my body like a temple. Now I always eat healthy, organic food and practice yoga and pilates daily. I find that I need to work out to stay in shape and feel good about myself, but I also love to eat! Having an eating disorder definitely made me understand how important it is to take care of yourself and fight the battle. Thank you for sharing your story, you are such an inspiration!

    Xo, Hannah


  11. Wow, I'm speechless. That was so well written & so very true to every woman out there.
    Wanna know something? ;-) ....You're so gorgeous & shouldn't have those insecurities! Keep your head up bc there's nothing about you that you should be insecure about.

    xoxo Elle


  12. This post had me in tears as well! I have suffered through body image issues for most of my life (middle school and onward... God, middle school can be the worst, right?!) and when you described going for a run and then going to the gym and feeling good for a while but negative feelings sinking back in it totally and completely resonated with me. I went for a run two days ago and actually felt worse afterwards haha! but I absolutely get what you mean and body image has been an issue for me as well. I've had to completely retrain my brain from thinking of body image as an issue in vanity to an issue of health and when I decided I wanted to make myself better for the health benefits first and foremost I discovered a better sense of motivation and importance in losing weight... and then realizing possibly "looking better" was just a bonus if anything. Learning to love myself at the size I am is what I had to do before any physical changes manifested.

    Thank you so much for sharing your story, one many of us face daily. This blogging world is such a powerful and lovely medium to discuss personal issues openly with other individuals and learn and gain from one another. Maybe it's time for me to start a little blog ;)

    You are gorgeous inside and out (and on a somewhat of a hypocritical note, as I'd rather not make "superficial" comments on a body image post, your body is banging). I love reading your posts because you seem to have such a passion for life and a thankfulness for everything you have. Thanks for letting me gain from you.

    xx, Alex


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